A Hidden Hatred.



You say love the sinner; hate the sin.

But I say love the sinner, and hate your own sin before you go around hating everyone else’s sin.





I am always astonished by the amount of hate I hold within myself.

It’s true. There’s always a person to glare at, a rock to throw, or a victim to spit my venom at.

And I know I’m not the only one.

I’m beginning to see a dangerous trend in the Christian subculture. I see hate being accepted within communities, as long as the group of believers collectively justify their hatred.

What I mean is this…
Have you seen how people treat the president?
Have you witnessed how people treat those they oppose on the political spectrum?
Have you recognized the disgust that is held toward the poor, helpless, and homeless?
Have you encountered the micro-aggressions passed off as jokes?
Have you glanced at the slander being thrown at those who want to be a part of our country, but don’t have the money or means to become a citizen?

and you know what’s crazy  about all of this hate?

I am the one who holsters all of these trends.





I tend to throw my fair share of rocks at those I deem as bad, wrongful, lousy, or unacceptable.

I have created my own sense of right and wrong, and if you don’t fit into the right category, get ready for the execution.

Even though I suffer in dealing with my own wrongs, I would rather call out someone else’s wrongs than rewrite my own. I would rather call someone else for doing something immoral instead of fixing my own morality.

And I especially throw out judgments towards the unbelieving world. It feels good to tear them down. My slander builds myself up as I watch my words force others to tumble before me.

And I know I’m not the only one who does this.





I’ve always been the one who dictates morality.

But I, myself, am immoral.

I’ve always been the one to say who is good and who is not.

But I, myself, am not good.






When we look at morality from a practical stance, we see that morality cannot be fully governed by any human being.

This is because we are too different. We all have grown up in different backgrounds, settings, and cultures that have different ideologies, traditions, and moral practices.

Our moral compasses are not all aligned. Their may be a few wrongs we can all agree on, but we all don’t share the same morality.

So who must we lean on to guide our ideas on what is “right” and what is “wrong”?

When we allow ourselves to be above morality, we find ourselves acting in a manor that is god-like. We force our convictions and practices down the throats of our legionnaires. We throw boulders at those who oppose our beliefs and our love becomes only as deep as our shallow and small minds.

Morality must be imposed, molded, and shaped by our understanding of God. We must not lean on our own understanding of what is right and wrong. We must not let the culture around us prescribe what makes a person sick, because we, as humans, are not perfect; therefor, our view of morality will never be perfect.





But as you just read, I believed that I was the one who was supposed to police morality within culture. What I knew was right needed to be imposed on those around me. Isn’t that what Jesus would want? Isn’t that who Jesus was? Didn’t He come down to Earth to tell all who did wrong that they are condemned to Hell? Didn’t He look at His enemies and passive-aggressively spit on the ground beneath them? That’s who Jesus is right?





We all know John 3:16. It’s a verse that is rooted in our culture.

But do we know the very next verse?

“For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.”

John 3:17 ESV





Jesus Christ.
Jesus Christ flesh and blood did not come to condemn the world.
Jesus Christ came to the world in order that the world might be saved through him.


I thought my active duty on this world was to send out the troops that resided within the army of my moral compass, and to reign my righteous democracy on all those who opposed what I constituted to be right and wrong.

But Jesus did not come to condemn the world. He came to save it.

And if Jesus did not come to condemn the world, then maybe it’s time that we stop condemning it.





I hear this saying a lot in church circles.

Bobby doesn’t like Sally because Sally is sinning in a way that makes Bobby mad.
Bobby dislikes Sally beyond belief.
Maybe Sally’s action even leads Bobby to hate Sally.
All because Bobby believes that Sally is wrong.

Let’s say Sally is a non-believer. Let’s say Sally does not know Jesus.

What directs Sally’s morality?

If God is not within her, then Sally’s morality is lead by some other force.

So, in this situation, if Sally is doing something “wrong”, is it Bobby’s duty, as a Christ follower, to enforce his sense of righteousness on Sally?

Or, let’s flip the narrative, what if Bobby did not condemn Sally for her actions?
What if Bobby understood that the only judge of morality in this world is God alone?
What if instead Bobby reached out a loving hand, and instead of yelling at Sally for what she had done wrong, what if Bobby extended Jesus to Sally?
What if Bobby presented Sally with who Jesus is rather than condemning her with who he wanted Jesus to be?





What if we got rid of the saying, “love the sinner and hate the sin”.

Because, let’s be honest with ourselves, have we ever hated someone else’s sin without holding on to a deep, hidden, and secret hatred within our own hearts for that person?

You say, “love the sinner, hate the sin.”

But I say love the sinner, and hate your own sin before you go around hating everyone else’s sin.

Or as Jesus famously said…

“Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”

Matthew 7:3-5 ESV






I know there’s a deep sense of hate hidden away in my soul,

and I know you feel the same way.


So why don’t we take a step back from what we believe is “right” and “wrong”,

and trust that the Holy Sprit will lead the individual, and ourselves, to a deeper understanding of morality.

And if someone doesn’t have faith in Christ, let’s focus on presenting them with the true nature of God, and stop delivering our hateful natures in place of Him.





  1. Reply

    God is love. Hate harbors in our hearts like a poison. We’re allowed to, and even encouraged to hate the sin but it has been commanded that we love our neighbor and our enemy (and ourselves!)
    What a wonderful, and refreshingly honest post. None of us are worthy of casting judgement of morality.


  2. Reply

    This was such a great article, and exactly what I needed to read. Thank you so much for making this available. I am reblogging it.

    Best Regards,



  3. Reply

    Reblogged this on Special Creation Woman and commented:
    I wish I could have read something like this 40 years ago when my self-righteousness really started taking root. It has been only in recent years when I have started to understand that only through God’s kindness can anyone be moved from wherever they are at the moment.


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